I’m not afraid to admit that I cried when watching the 2024 hit film ‘My Old Ass’.

And yes. It may have been something like that Kim K gif.

For those of you who have no clue what I am talking about — the film is a brilliant coming-of-age fantasy story about a teenager called Elliott who is visited by a 39 year old version of herself.

Elliott doesn’t just visit her younger self.

She gives herself some life changing advice.

Now I don’t want to spoil the film so I’ll have to leave it there (you should defo watch).

But imagine if your future self was sitting right next to you sharing wisdom that could change your life right now?

Wouldn’t you want to listen… even just a little bit?

Herbold30s is providing you with the next best thing.

We’ve searched the internet for advice from women about what they would do differently in their 30s.

And today we are sharing that wisdom with you.

So buckle up your seatbelts and enjoy the ride!

"I would argue against unapologetically putting your career first. I'm a single, 33-year-old girl making six figures at what was supposed to be my 'dream' job. I've sacrificed relationships and opportunities in the pursuit of finding meaning through work. The last year shattered all of that and made me realize how pointless it all is. Work has been my priority for the last decade, and I regret it immensely. Investing in family, friendships, and relationships, being there for the people you love, living life in accordance with your values, spending time and energy on the things that matter to you — that's what you need to be unapologetic about. If it's work, that's great, but don't make it the be all end all in how you define a successful or meaningful life."

“I spent much of my 30s feeling like I had to “figure out” my career. And I spent most of that time miserable, feeling like I had very little control, which was hard as a small business owner. But here’s what I know now: your career can, and often will, change. Selling my half of my old company and walking away was the opposite of giving up. I knew what was best for my family and for my mental health. Don’t be afraid to start over if something doesn’t feel right. Reinvention isn’t failure – it’s growth. And the best thing you can do is to listen to your heart. Do what truly makes you happy, even if it means switching paths.”

“You might have an idea of when you want to hit certain career milestones. I really wanted to get married and have kids in my early 30s. But I  got married at 35, and back then, I thought I was “behind.” And I hate to admit this, but I tried to get our wedding date scheduled before my 35th birthday. Why? So I could say I got married before I turned 35? I ended up getting married a few weeks after my 35th birthday. Looking back, can’t imagine caring about that at this point in my life. We started trying for a baby immediately because I was convinced it would take forever, and I was already so behind. Then I let it all go. I had my third baby months before turning 41. I wish I could go back and tell myself that I didn’t need to stress out about timelines. That it was ok to have kids later and follow my own path. Things fell into place when they were meant to. I’m really happy with my life, even though I’m not at all where I thought I’d be at 42.

“I wish I’d known how hard motherhood would be and how quickly those early years with kids would fly by. That I understood the value of hiring help, asking for help, and seeking therapy when motherhood felt especially hard. I felt consumed by the worry and didn’t know how to properly care for myself when I was trying to figure out how to care for these little people. It wasn’t until I had my third baby that I felt truly comfortable as a mom. I wish more than anything that I could have been a third time mom with my first baby – I would have enjoyed that first year so much more. You don’t have to “do it all” to be a good mom.” 

"It’s OK to think differently than your parents."

“Friendships in your 30s can change in ways that are hard to understand at first. People move, get married, have kids, or take new jobs. Those things can make it harder to stay connected. We also evolve and grow, and there are times we don’t grow together. A friend you may have chosen in your 20s or even 30s might not be someone you feel connected to in your 40s.  It can be really difficult and painful to realize a friendship is no longer a fit. Some people are there for a season, and it might feel like a loss, but it’s a natural part of life. The true friends—the ones who’ll be there through every high and low—will grow with you, and those relationships deepen over time. You’ll also find new people as you change. And there is something so special about being older and connecting with someone who was meant to be in your life. I have friends I’ve made over the last year that I feel so connected to, and I feel so lucky that I found them.”

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